Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ):

1. What is Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) coaching?

Answer: Integrated Attachment Theory (IAT) coaching is a practical, science-backed approach to understanding and healing attachment styles. It combines attachment theory with tools and exercises designed to help you build emotional resilience, healthier relationships, and greater self-confidence. Together, we’ll work to overcome patterns that may be holding you back, so you can thrive in all areas of your life.

2. I’m nervous about opening up. Will I feel pressured to share personal details?

Answer: Absolutely not. I create a safe, comfortable space, and you set the pace. Our work together is always tailored to your comfort level, and I’m here to support you without judgment. You can feel free to share only what feels right for you.

3. How will coaching help me as a fearful-avoidant?

Answer: Many fearful-avoidants long for connection yet struggle to trust fully. Through our sessions, we’ll focus on strengthening your ability to feel safe in relationships, set healthy boundaries, and feel more secure within yourself. You’ll gain tools to navigate relationships with confidence and create meaningful connections without feeling overwhelmed.

4. What if I don’t know my attachment style?

Answer: No problem! Our first sessions can include an exploration of attachment styles to better understand what feels true for you. I also offer a brief quiz to help identify your attachment style, which we can discuss in detail to ensure it resonates with you.

5. How many sessions will I need?

Answer: Coaching is a flexible, individualized process, and the number of sessions depends on your goals. Some clients feel positive shifts within a few sessions, while others prefer a longer journey for deeper transformation. We can decide together what feels best for you.

6. Do you offer any free resources to get started?

Answer: Yes! I offer a free guide to help you begin building stronger, healthier relationships. Simply sign up with your email to download it. You can also book a free 15-minute consultation (discovery call) to get a feel for how coaching can support you.

7. Can I book just one session to see if it’s the right fit?

Answer: Absolutely. Many clients start with a single session to experience coaching firsthand before deciding on a more extended plan. I want you to feel fully comfortable and confident about your choice to continue.

8. What if I’m not comfortable with video calls?

Answer: No problem at all. Sessions can be conducted via phone or even by email support, depending on your preference. I’m here to meet you wherever you feel most comfortable.

9. How does payment work?

Answer: Payment is straightforward and can be handled securely online. I offer flexible options, and we can discuss any questions you have about payments during our initial consultation.

10. Will this be like traditional therapy?

Answer: Coaching is different from therapy. While therapy often delves into the past to work through trauma, coaching focuses on actionable steps toward your future. It’s about creating lasting change and moving toward your goals with structured support.

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Check Out the Free Tools & Knowledge Below:

  • Find out your attachment style with this quiz

    The attachment style quiz above is a great starting point for self-awareness. The coaching programs begin with an in-depth questionnaire and goal assessment tool to identify your focus areas and create a flexible structure tailored to your specific needs.

  • Attachment Theory:

    Attachment Theory is a psychological framework developed by John Bowlby and later expanded by Mary Ainsworth and others. This theory zooms in on the early bonds between children and their caregivers, highlighting how crucial these attachments are for emotional and social development.

    Your unique attachment style was created during your early childhood, shaped by all those interactions, experiences, and perceptions you had. Picture it as your mind's operating manual, setting the tone for forming connections and navigating behaviors with others.

    The Four General Attachment Styles:

    1.) Fearful Avoidant

    2.) Anxious Preoccupied

    3.) Dismissive Avoidant

    4.) Securely Attached

    Learn more:

    Check out this blog post for more information.

  • Integrated Attachment Theory™:

    Integrated Attachment Theory™ is trademarked work that overlaps the focus of traditional attachment styles with other key factors including:

    A) Core Wounds & Belief Patterns

    B) Relationship Needs & Expectations

    C) Emotional Patterns

    D) Relationship to Boundaries

    E) Communication Patterns

    F) Behavioral Coping Mechanisms

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    Positive Results of Healing an Insecure Attachment Style:

    -form your most empowered and fulfilling life

    -move steadily toward your dreams and goals with greater ease

    -emotional peace and joy

    -deep connections and thriving relationships

    Learn more:

    Check out this blog post for more information about Integrated Attachment Theory™ and Coaching

  • Journaling Playlist:

    Click Here for Mind Jardin's Playlist

    There are a ton of wonderful tools you can choose from on your healing journey and the most important thing is that they resonate for you. See if you vibe with the journaling prompt below that’s meant to be paired with music and set an uplifting tone. You can create your own playlist or check out Mind Jardin’s picks.

    Our curated playlists blend introspective tunes with electronic indie jams for a profound connection between mind and emotions as you explore and nurture your inner world.

    Journaling Prompt:

    -Consider yourself. There are a multitude of benefits in making self-connection a daily habit. What would make self-connection fun for you?

    -Choose a comfortable spot where you can focus

    Bonus: safely and responsibly create a mood with scented candles you love and/or wrap yourself in a cozy blanket

    -In a journal you can free-write for a minimum of five minutes and see what comes up or you can answer the questions listed below. You can also do a voice note to yourself in your phone but writing is generally more effective

    Journaling Questions:

    1.) How am I feeling right now?

    Check in with your emotions. Identify and acknowledge your current feelings. This simple question helps you become more aware of your emotional state at any given moment. Awareness is the valuable first step in understanding ourselves and being able to make choices and take actions that align with what our conscious mind values.

    2.) What am I grateful for today?

    Reflect on the positive aspects of your day and consider the things you are grateful for. This question encourages a focus on the positive elements in your life, fostering a sense of appreciation and mindfulness. Our minds naturally focus on negative life events with the intention of keeping us safe. Focusing on the positive aspects of life can help us see a more balanced view of the world. It is important to acknowledge when situations are genuinely challenging and validate our emotions and move towards solutions.

    3.) What’s one thing I can do differently tomorrow: one inspiring step I can take?

    Reflect on the possibilities of tomorrow. Take a moment to observe how you face adversity, setbacks, and failures. This question is an invitation to discover the strength within you — your resilience, problem-solving skills, and emotional responses. It's the gateway to personal growth, offering insights into how you navigate difficulties.

    Throughout this journey, remember to sow seeds of kindness and gentleness within yourself. Embrace the potential for positive change.

    I hope you enjoy these self-connection exercises and would love to hear your feedback!

    Published January 9, 2024

    Updated September, 15, 2024